Pornography has a huge impact. Let me show what a victim’s heart looks like:
I love my husband deeply and I believe he loves me just as much, but he is addicted to pornography. Recently, I saw on his phone again that he had looked at a website with nude photos and photos of other women with hardly any clothes on.
Some of his friends regularly send him disgusting videos on his phone. I can’t deal with it anymore and when I talk to him about it, he gets terribly angry with me. Now I just keep quiet.
It makes me feel as if I’m not good enough for him. I’m not beautiful or sexy enough for him. It actually makes me feel as if he no longer cares for me. I can’t be spontaneous with him wees and just give him hugs and love.
It feels as if he is just using me for one thing …
I wish he would realise that if it was me looking at such photos and videos of naked men, he would’ve been just as unhappy, but it is completely against my Christian principles and I would never do such a thing.
It actually feels as if he is unfaithful to me just by looking at these photos and videos. It breaks my heart …
Doesn’t he realise what it is doing to me?
Pornography destroys and kills. It tears marriages and relationships apart. It draws a thick line through the beauty that God gave people.
We must fight against it with everything we have. We must eradicate it from our lives. We must take hands and help one another, because it will be too hard to do it on our own. Everything doesn’t disappear and return to normal at the snap of a finger. It’s a huge struggle to tear yourself away from this. Piet (not his real name) knows this all too well:
Really, man, I’m struggling terribly! Just as I think I’ve won, the devil bowls me a curve ball. These past two days he completely misled me again (with this porn thing).
Then I feel so disgusted with myself that I don’t even want to spend time with my devotions.
Then I think about King David. He also went where he shouldn’t have gone. And the devil said to him: “Look at that sexy girl!” She didn’t have clothes on. I wonder what went through his head.
I don’t know if I would have been so strong.
Many struggle with this. Many feel dirty and hide from God. But everyone who struggles with this must realise that pornography forces a wedge not only between you and God, but also between you and your loved ones.
Be honest about your weakness. Take it to God and ask Him to help you with his Spirit. Also find someone you trust who can walk this road with you. Together victory is just around the corner.
As time goes by, this too will move from our present to our past: 3Once we, too, were foolish and disobedient; we were misled by others and became slaves to many evil pleasures and wicked desires. Our lives were full of resentment and envy. We hated others and they hated us. (Living Bible)
Now we are changed.
Are you struggling with this?
Can you honestly give your problem to God?
Who can you trust with your problem?
Lord, this sin is keeping me imprisoned! Its power feels stronger than my resistance. Please help me get free. In Jesus’ Name, amen.