Look up to one another
I’m putting myself out there now and may get a beating, but read till the end. Maybe we can meet one another halfway.
The man is head of the family and wives must be 5… obedient to their husbands (Living Bible). Many people don’t like this. I don’t like it either and I suspect it’s because many men abuse their role as head of the family.
Many of them did not comply with their part of the agreement. There was no guidance. Love, only when they wanted it. They took and took and gave nothing. Their way of life did not earn respect. And when everything is over and the music is playing softly, the husband draws a line in the sand: Women must be obedient to their husbands and do what they say …
It’s easy to understand why Anel (not her real name) couldn’t bear to stay with her husband:
My ex-husband was involved with my female boss. It destroyed everything: my work, relationships and marriage. Huge pain.
This isn’t how it works. It’s even less how God intended it to work. The husband is not the wife’s boss. The wife is definitely not the husband’s doormat. That’s why I like The Message translation more: 5By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives.
A wife will easily look up to her husband with love if he treats her well. She will be grateful and treat him well, because he cares for her, he gives her what her heart desires, he is her friend, her protector, the one who makes her laugh out loud. Then she will admire him and miss him so much when he is not with her. She will enjoy serving him.
In actual fact, husband and wife should serve one another. Obey one another. And look up to one another. That’s how God intended it to be. Each of us should have our own recipe to get there.
I’m proud to say that my beloved Hennie and I have been married for 30 wonderful years. Our success is built on faith, trust, communication and lots of laughter.
I’m fortunate that I have a good wife. We’ve been married 22 years already. We have only three rules in our relationship. We never go to sleep still being angry with one another. She doesn’t hit me and I don’t hit her. We’re always honest with one another, and if one of us messes up, we sort it out together.
Let’s live in a way that will make our spouses look up to us. Let’s live our marriages in such a way that others look up to us and God’s Name is glorified.
What does your relationship look like?
Where do you have to work on it?
How can you really laugh together again?
Father, You know best. The day my partner and I got married was your will too. Along the way we have made some choices that were a bit off base. Maybe we fell asleep and forgot the other one. I want to live your will in my marriage again. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.